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Say it Loud: Washed Up & I’m Proud

  For the past year or so, I’ve been getting called out about how unavailable I’ve been and how “boring” I’ve grown to be. I’m simply just tired of feeling guilty about it. I’m pretty sure I’ve been called everything from “washed, lame, fake, boring,” everything but my damn name. In my defense, my unavailability is not due to pure laziness or dismissiveness, but the goals that I aspire to reach now that I’m closer to 30 require more time, attention, and discipline. All the memes on social media state that your twenties consist of turn…

Black Health Matters-Especially Yours

“I don’t care what the statistics say. This little Black girl believes in the power of prayer as well as counseling and therapy” – this is a status I posted a few months ago to FB and it continues to resonate. In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to use this platform to address this topic as my very own mental health was threatened quite a bit over the past couple of months as well as the mental health of others who are close to me. Being enrolled in a Social Work program, you…

Ladies, It Is Ok To Say No!

Show of hands, ladies, how many times do we get caught in the habit of over extending ourselves just to do for other people? We will swear up and down that there is a visible S on our chest and immune from burnout. I have a very empathetic heart and I feel for people, especially those closest to me. I’m always volunteering myself to help people or saying “yes” when asked, knowing DAWG ON WELL I should have said no. I burn out and complain about being so “busy” when my “busyness” is under my control.…

No, I’m Not Ok- And That’s Ok

Can I just be real with y’all for a second? I finally put myself in a position to sit down and just…write. No first drafts, no edits, just pure & raw emotion with fingers to the keyboard. This is definitely new for me as I am very self-conscious about my writing before I press PUBLISH. I re-read a good 3-4 times and switch out words before I deem my posts “share worthy.” This time, I just wanted to get it out. For those who keep up with me via real life, social media, and this blog,…

Get to Know Kat Tat Girl: College Drop Out to Tattoo Artist & Reality TV Star

She was always referred to as “tat girl” when walking around the University of Missouri-Columbia’s (Mizzou) campus, but now the rest of the nation knows her as Kat Tat Girl. I had the privilege of meeting Katrina as we were both pursuing our undergraduate degrees at Mizzou. You couldn’t hold a conversation with Katrina without her grinning from ear to ear the entire time: a very kind spirited woman but very diligent about her work. Much like the rest of #BlackMizzou, I would make an attempt to get a tat between classes and work, or whenever…

Happy New Year: Why New Years Resolutions Are No Longer Necessary

When midnight on the last day of the year rolls around, this is when everyone verbally commits to these grandiose goals or changes. One of the most popular being, join a gym (or return to the gym) and lose X amount of pounds before X date. Membership sales skyrocket in the month of January and there is never a treadmill available, and I know this to be factual because I actually worked at a gym around the New Year and saw faces I’ve never seen before, but much like a new car smell, they started to…